Remember when you're hubby measured how tall the kids were by carving notches into the dining room molding? Bad move. The chicken-themed kitchen was probably a mistake too. Have you ever looked in a friend's handbag? Didn't it just scream, "Invader! Get out! Get out!" Well, you don't want your house to do that. You want your house to be so benign and neutral that anyone could imagine living there -- without you.